Some time ago I came to the disheartening conclusion that what many independent birth educators like myself teach women in birth classes isn’t actually what they can expect, it is what they deserve. And, in our birth culture there can be a dramatic difference between the two. I then wrote an article exploring what many women can expect from a traditional hospital-based “natural” birth—it was published in Pathways magazine and has also made the rounds multiple times as a blog post. So, what then do women deserve? In my mind, they deserve: humane care; respectful, individualized treatment; freedom of movement and choice in a woman-honoring environment; informed consent; the Six Healthy Birth Practices; and the recognition that birth is a significant rite of passage and transformative life event. With this conviction, I therefore refuse to start teaching only what can be expected, because women deserve so very much more than that—but, how to professionally handle the dichotomy in class?

Published in the 80’s, the book Childbirth with Insight by Elizabeth Noble has some thoughts on the subject offer the birth educators of today. In the section addressing the issue of being honest with childbirth education clients about common obstetric practices, she says:

“…instructors in the community cannot afford to discuss obstetric practices in ways that will aggravate local hospitals and obstetricians if they wish to fill their classes. One childbirth educator comments, ‘Imagine if we told couples how it really was…perhaps we’d lose fewer teachers from our group.’ No wonder many of these dedicated and enthusiastic teachers suffer ‘childbirth preparation burnout.’ They are caught in a triple bind. If they describe accurately how birth is managed in some hospitals, couples would become very fearful. If expectant parents anticipate a warm and flexible birth environment and find that such is not the case in the hospital they use, their disappointment is inevitable and bitter. If the instructors advocate childbirth without drugs or anesthesia and these are needed, parents may harbor feelings of guilt and failure.”

The author concludes this segment of the discussion with a very potent and powerful message to birth educators:

“Each instructor must teach what she knows in her bones to be true. A dynamic teacher is constantly changing, becoming more self-aware. At the same time, couples must be warned that almost all hospitals and doctors have expectations based on the mechanical model of birth.” [emphasis mine]

This is such a difficult line to walk—to encourage confidence, trust, and joy in childbearing, while being straightforward about the challenges couples may face when seeking a natural birth experience in a hospital. I always encourage couples to “assume good intent” from hospital staff—they offer medication because they feel like they are helping and also simply because it is the primary “tool” in their medical-model oriented helping toolbox. I also remind them that routines are powerful and if the majority of births occurring at a specific hospital are induced, medicated, heavily intervened with, etc. it can be difficult to buck the trend. Again, not out of some sketchy motive from hospital staff, but simply because of routine or “this is what we always do” or “this is what mothers want from us.”

The very firey, bold, honest, and passionate 1990’s manifesto on VBAC, Open Season even more bluntly addresses the issue of transparency in maternity care and also the effectiveness of childbirth education in this quote:

“If childbirth classes really ‘worked,’ more women would be having babies without interference. More women would be recognizing the complete naturalness of birth and would remain at home, delivering their infants with feelings of confidence and trust. More and more, midwives would be demanded. The names of those hospitals and doctors who treated women and babies with anything less than absolute respect would be public knowledge, and childbirth classes would be the first place these names would be discussed. ‘You’re seeing What’s-His-Face? He’s a pig! In my opinion, of course,’ I tell people who come to my classes. I then proceed to give them the names of people who have used Pig-face. They can always ask Dr. P. for the names of people who have used him and been satisfied with their births, for balance.”

While I’m not personally to the point of taking the “Dr. Pig-face” approach from Open Season, I’ve decided that honesty is the best policy and I’ve started to be very upfront about my challenge with the couples in my classes. Lately, I say, “here’s where I’m wrestling with something. I’m teaching you what you deserve, but it isn’t necessarily what you can expect…” and we proceed to explore choices, talk about communication skills, talk about evidence-based care, making sure the care provider’s words and actions thus far are matching, etc. However, my basic dilemma remains—I am not changing a broken system by teaching individual couples how to navigate it more satisfactorily, I’m actually supporting the broken system (right?!). While one-on-one change efforts have value and are personally rewarding, what I know in my bones to be true is that what we actually need is widespread maternity care reform and systemic change on a global level…

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(I originally posted some content from this post on the ICEA blog.)