I already posted about this on my miscarriage blog, but I have more readers here and wanted to reach out to those followers as well.
I am currently compiling contributions for a book about miscarriage. I am especially interested in stories about natural miscarriages (i.e. miscarriages that begin and complete on their own timeline rather than a medical timeline) and on miscarriage at home, but I am happy to receive any miscarriage story contribution. I am seeking full stories about miscarriage—the nitty gritty physical reality as well as the emotional components. I have a big vision for this book—I want it to be a “what to expect when you’re having a miscarriage” guidebook that doesn’t only address the feelings involved with miscarriage, but answers practical questions like, “what should I eat?” and “how do I take care of myself?” and “how much blood is too much blood?” and “how to decide whether to have a D & C or whether to wait it out at home?” I feel like the best way to answer many of these questions is through the heartfelt stories of other women who have “been there.”
I welcome contributions from women who chose to go to the hospital at some point during the process even if they originally started out to have a natural miscarriage (I am particularly interested in the decision-making process about going). My primary interest is in the nitty gritty, physical coping stories rather than specific location of miscarriage-birth, though I do still have the special interest in home experiences—-at the root, I want real, complete stories from any setting.
I have a full survey of questions that I am developing to post online, but for now I am pleased to accept any contribution related to my primary theme of natural miscarriage (and/or the physical miscarriage experience regardless of setting). Stories can be emailed to me and I will respectfully and gratefully accept each one with my heart wide open.
I was previously seeking suggestions for the title of this book, originally thinking of calling it simply, “Miscarriage at Home,” when a reader emailed me to suggest the title “The Empowered Miscarriage” (see comments on my other blog for her full explanation). I really like the connotations of the title—-particularly, that it suggests something about miscarriage that is very different than the normal coverage of miscarriage in books. So, I edited my original post to reflect this new title and focus.
Also, I still find myself signficantly displeased with the woefully inadequate word, “miscarriage.” I don’t like it. I don’t like, “miscarrying.” It isn’t enough. I also don’t like the euphemism “loss.” “Pregnancy loss” as a phrase is all right—side note: I feel like there is a range of experiences contained within the miscarriage experience and I think the three are almost separate experiences (emotionally, mentally, and physically)—the babyloss experience, the actual birth-miscarriage experience, and the experience of the loss of being pregnant. I have coped with my own strong, strong feelings about miscarriage as a birth event by referring to my own first miscarriage experience in writing as a miscarriage-birth or a birth-miscarriage. For me, this modifier makes an important point. However, it is cumbersome, not in popular use, and I want something else! Any ideas?
What a wonderful and much needed book. I have experience 5 miscarriages, so far. Some in the hospital, some at home and some both. I would love to share my stories with you! I will start working on it right away.
Check out my blog on D&C vs Natural miscarriage – http://cadnawes.wordpress.com/2010/07/14/a-tale-of-a-natural-miscarriage-vs-dc/
I have had two miscarriages in the last year, one was a D&C without time to know what was going on, the other was done at home – Empowered is exactly how I would describe that. Knock youself out, I’m happy to liaise more if you wish!
I would absolutely love to contribute. I am so happy you are doing this. I just went through this in April. I miscarried at home after waiting 4 weeks for the process to begin naturally. I do have my story online at my blog, but I have a more “raw” version offline.
Sounds like this is going to be a very empowering book…something those of us who have experienced this need. I struggled to find support from women who chose to miscarry naturally. I found it at my crunch, hippie mama website. Most of the books I had read were lacking in that area. You rock for doing this.
Thank you for your comments, Jenn. I know this is cliche, but I hope this is going to be the book I wished I had available to me.
Never had a miscarriage. And I don’t know how it would fit in your title, but maybe “death of a pregnancy”… Just an idea.
I lost our first two babies……how do I send you our story?
I just confirmed my miscarriage today, but I’ve been writing about my experience as a form of therapy, and posting it in parts on my blog. I’d be happy to share my experience with others. It’s helping me find a purpose in what I’m going through. Please email me for more info.
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